tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5799931283237934101.post5985415349377398594..comments2013-09-29T12:59:51.658-07:00Comments on Life as I Know it or Some Semblance Thereof!: Pity Party, Ticket for OneSusiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04668341282568912579noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5799931283237934101.post-21879115998771991752013-09-02T00:27:32.990-07:002013-09-02T00:27:32.990-07:00This is beautiful. I think it happens to us lone e...This is beautiful. I think it happens to us lone empty-nesters. I even know some married/attached people going through the same thing. It is an entirely different life, which can be scary at times. Having relied on passivity to the needs/wants of others really does rather delete the self, but it really can't be helped, because those others' needs were often more pressing. Not anymore. We get to do what we want now! It's hard to let go of. I still can't cook for any fewer than 8 people, and for two solid months after I moved here - alone - I was still buying milk, even though I don't drink it. There's definitely an adjustment and, I suppose buying a big freezer to store the extra food. Because I work at home, I even get to sleep when I want and work when I want. Most people don't get that, so I'm lucky there. But there are a lot of things you can do exactly as you want. It's quite liberating to stand in the kitchen and say the F word five times in a row. The first time I did it, I looked around, sure a piano would fall from the sky. Now I like it, and I do it often, just to prove to myself I'm allowed and I know it. There's one enormous drawback to living alone and working at home, though. It settles in over time. You get used to being allowed to fart whenever you want, and not pay it any mind. Then, you're at a restaurant and ... Oh, crap. I just did that. Other than that, dance with the cat, talk to yourself, eat only green beans for dinner, don't wash the plate, take popcorn to bed, feel no guilt for the ice cream in your freezer, and roll around in it like a dog on the lawn. Yep. It works. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05545321861410332667noreply@blogger.com